This guide aims to amuse, inform and advise you, whether you are about to bust out of the closet or have already experienced the highs and lows of guy-on-guy love. Coming out, the gay scene, dating, relationships, health and sex are all discussed. Why am I gay? How do I find a nice guy and keep him around? What's the best way to avoid STDs while still enjoying an adventurous sex life? Where does the aggression against gays and lesbians come from and how can we avoid it and fight it? Useful information and practical suggestions are the focus, navel gazing is out. In short, this book will help you attain the second, old-fashioned meaning of the word "gay'.
The Guide also contains over 30 color illustrations and lists of books, movies, television series and a list of web resources.
''When reading Gay & Happy, experienced gay men will recognize a lot of their own issues as well as the issues of others. Inexperienced guys will pick it up easily and eagerly to remind themselves about the do's and don'ts of gay happiness (...)'' (Review by Ihlia, the International Gay/Lesbian Information Center and Archive)
''In the past decennia there have been various attempts to explain gay life to those who are new to our subculture and, it has to be said, Van Lijndens is the best I have seen so far. With its 250 pages this 'guide for the modern gay man' is pretty hefty and complete.'' (Review by ZiZo magazine)