Self-Aware A Guide for Success in Work and Life

In over 45 years as a practicing psychologist, social entrepreneur, and professor, I have learned that emotional intelligence is the key to success in work and in life. I also know that becoming more self-aware is the key to developing strong emotional intelligence.

I have taught, coached, and counseled people on how to become more self-aware and how to develop their social-emotional competencies. Both activities lead to higher emotional intelligence.

This book presents the best practices developed and delivered in my teaching and in my psychology practice. Some of the stories and exercises in this book came from my previous book Balanced Leadership in Unbalanced Times (2009). I published some of the stories and exercises as articles on my blog at RobPasick.com. Please visit as I will continue to write there.

I wrote this book because not everyone who needs this information is here at the University of Michigan to take my class. While it's nice to have a teacher and coach to help you through the process, you can learn a lot by yourself through reading this book and working on its exercises.

If you follow the process, you'll end up with a self-made vision for success in both work and life. Furthermore, you will learn to set goals and develop the support that will enable you to make your dreams come true.How to Use this Book

This book reflects the process I use in my coaching and teaching. You will be asked to read, reflect, answer questions, and engage actively in a series of exercises. Some exercises will require the participation of significant people in your life.

You will be guided through exercises designed to:

• Help you find your career sweet spot.
• Establish a vivid vision of your dream success in career and life.
• Establish goals in the key spheres of your life: family, friends, mind, body, spirit, career, and community.
• Determine how the right balance in these spheres will lead to choices that maximize your chances to be happy and successfully choose the right mate.
• Better understand others.
• Better manage your relationship with yourself.
• Better manage your relationship with others.

Endorsements“When a successful person has 45 years of experience, and chooses to boil all he knows down to the essence, it is wise to pay attention. In this book, one of the most successful coaches I have ever known promises to mentor you into an elevated version of yourself. I think it is a must read.”–Robert E. Quinn, Author of The Positive Organization“When Rob Pasick speaks, people listen…and when he writes, people want to read it...and that's because Rob has a clear mission in mind with all his words...he wants to help people put everything in their lives in perspective, in the proper place.“Self-Aware: A Guide for Success in Work and Life is a book that is clear, concise and easy to understand. It will make a difference in how you balance your professional and personal life and it may make a difference in what you end up doing. I have known Rob for years, and he is a wise and caring and ever so smart man who wants to guide young men and women, helping them to be the best they can be. Rob really cares and puts so much thought into realistic ways to have professional success and personal happiness. This is a book you won't want to miss!”–Cheryl Chodun, former TV news reporter, WXYZ, Detroit and Adjunct Professor at Madonna University. “Rob Pasick is a man of deep passion, compassion, and wisdom. Throughout these pages, all three are woven beautifully.”–Michael H. Samuelson, Author of Beyond Cancer Survival: Living a Life of Thrival